They're rubber and you're glue.

Judgement is such a natural part of life. Everyone does it, everyone suffers from it. But just because we all do something never makes it right. We think that it's no big deal. Look at that person over there. Did they not look in the mirror this morning? How could they knowingly leave the house with their hair like that? Or in that shirt, those pants, those shoes... That HAT! Or what about the voice of that woman in your office? The one who talks obnoxiously loud and is completely unaware of how annoying she is. Or that totally uncool guy you won't admit you dated who was so antisocial because he didn't spend time in the right places, with the right people.

We make all these snap judgments on the people we run into every day without knowing hardly a thing about them. We do it in part because we are bored and not caught up enough in our own business, but mostly we do it because in some manner we feel insecure about ourselves. We need to bring those around us down a few pages so that we can feel elevated. What we don't realize though is that the only one we are bringing down is ourselves.

First off, the people we are judging... unless you are vocalizing your opinions, don't even realize you have made these decisions regarding them. And should you be vocalizing these thoughts to them, all you are doing is displaying the darkness and inadequacies within yourself for public viewing. Additionally, these judgements you have just made have not just gone into the air and vanished. If nothing else they are saved in your own mind as a check list. Things you must never do, never imitate, unless you wish to arise self disdain.

By demanding perfection of those around you, lest they be judged, you'll soon realize that you too are being judged. And then the self consciousness arises. Now perfection must be your standard. The slightest slip up could be the cause of hours, if not weeks, of self deflating accusations. How could you be that stupid, that naive? How could you mess that up? You'll say that you don't care what other people think, but in truth if you really had not a care about others, you wouldn't have any judgements on those around you in the first place.

In reality, when we judge, the loser is ourselves. We lose respect for others, we lose respect for ourselves. We paint the world with a cynical brush. Our thoughts destroy us from within.

Therefore let your thoughts be uplifting. When you see others that are not as you are, let them be. Be happy for them that they have found happiness, who cares if it breaks your mold? And if they have not, well then pray for them that they would. Lift them up, and in return you will lift up yourself.