I say this is true with but a few exceptions:
No thought is new. Everything that can be thought has been thought before. Even if there is no evidence of it, it has been thought. The previous thinker or hearers of said thought just did not find it worthy to write down.
The only exceptions I find to this revolve around specific scientific discoveries. But the concept... the concept of such discoveries... that is not new.
So you who think yourself so revelatory... thank you Mr. Obvious.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Thursday, January 21, 2010
My Platonic Boyfriend
When Harry Met Sally is a classic movie that raises a question I do believe every generation raises: Can guys and girls be friends? Or perhaps I need to rephrase this "can a heterosexual male and a heterosexual female just be friends" for those completely logical types.
I love this movie and have watched it multiple times. It is one of the few movies that I have actually put forth the effort to add to my collection as I only buy movies I know I will watch over again. I'm not sure though if it ever does answer the very question it raises. For most of the movie they do indeed stay platonic, but it ends with them being quite in love.
So I still wonder, can we just be friends? There are two arguments I can think of to go against this. One, as Harry states, even if the girl in the friendship is ugly, the guy pretty much would want to "hit that". Ok, so I'm not a guy so I can't validate that argument.
Two, if the guy is any kind of decent, regardless of whether she is interested in him or not the girls ego will kick in and ask "why isn't he attracted to me? What must be wrong with me? Am I not attractive?" Her ego will not allow for her to be attractive and him NOT to be attracted to her. And I have not only felt this myself, but shamefully admit that I have done exactly what I have witnessed so many other women do: I have begun to scheme at how I could make my friend attracted to me, despite my full knowledge that should they fall, I will turn them down.
A girlfriend of mine found herself single after the deterioration of a long term relationship. She started going out to parties again and soon met a guy who she claimed to be her new best friend and only that. He was younger than her and she openly admitted neither was what the other was looking for in a relationship. But after a couple of months she wound up on my couch not just upset, but very pissed off exclaiming: "What's wrong, what's wrong with that boy? He's supposed to be interested. I think the main reason I'm contacting that boy is because I want him to be attracted to me. It's a game now. That's my goal."
And when this "game" doesn't work, if he doesn't get wise to her irresistibility, she soon starts defacing him to herself to save her own self opinion. "Maybe he's gay" she'll say to herself. Because there is simply no room in her mind for the possibility she could be an attractive woman but just simply not his type.
So... can a guy and a girl be just friends? For my part I would say yes, however only if they can both put their neuroses aside.
I love this movie and have watched it multiple times. It is one of the few movies that I have actually put forth the effort to add to my collection as I only buy movies I know I will watch over again. I'm not sure though if it ever does answer the very question it raises. For most of the movie they do indeed stay platonic, but it ends with them being quite in love.
So I still wonder, can we just be friends? There are two arguments I can think of to go against this. One, as Harry states, even if the girl in the friendship is ugly, the guy pretty much would want to "hit that". Ok, so I'm not a guy so I can't validate that argument.
Two, if the guy is any kind of decent, regardless of whether she is interested in him or not the girls ego will kick in and ask "why isn't he attracted to me? What must be wrong with me? Am I not attractive?" Her ego will not allow for her to be attractive and him NOT to be attracted to her. And I have not only felt this myself, but shamefully admit that I have done exactly what I have witnessed so many other women do: I have begun to scheme at how I could make my friend attracted to me, despite my full knowledge that should they fall, I will turn them down.
A girlfriend of mine found herself single after the deterioration of a long term relationship. She started going out to parties again and soon met a guy who she claimed to be her new best friend and only that. He was younger than her and she openly admitted neither was what the other was looking for in a relationship. But after a couple of months she wound up on my couch not just upset, but very pissed off exclaiming: "What's wrong, what's wrong with that boy? He's supposed to be interested. I think the main reason I'm contacting that boy is because I want him to be attracted to me. It's a game now. That's my goal."
And when this "game" doesn't work, if he doesn't get wise to her irresistibility, she soon starts defacing him to herself to save her own self opinion. "Maybe he's gay" she'll say to herself. Because there is simply no room in her mind for the possibility she could be an attractive woman but just simply not his type.
So... can a guy and a girl be just friends? For my part I would say yes, however only if they can both put their neuroses aside.
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